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(Anonymous) 2013-08-04 08:24 pm (UTC)(link)Also, you don't have to like porn with trans* characters. There's nothing wrong with that not being your thing. But why do you care strongly if others view your favourite characters as trans*? It doesn't affect your interpretation of the character. Why do you care? I don't mean this in an aggressive sense, but rather maybe you need to examine why you're having these reactions. And to be honest, given the terribly transphobic society we live in, a lot of people are much worse than mildly transphobic. The fact that you're wondering if you are goes a long way.
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(Anonymous) 2013-08-04 08:29 pm (UTC)(link)Unless we're not allowed to do that any more, for some reason.
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I really feel like the most awful person for this. Hence, the secret. I swear to god I have nothing against trans* people. I even went through a phase of mild gender dysphoria myself from my teenaged years to young adulthood, settling now into a genderfluid identity with a usually femme presentation. So I can't say "ZOh My God I totally know the feeling!", but I'm not foreign to the concept.
But trans*headcanons in fandom make me terribly uncomfortable. I backbutton the fuck out of them. I don't know why! I like fics when characters play with gender, but when characters go full-blown Male To Female or Female To Male I stop reading. I suspect it's because I mostly read porn, and trans* sex scenes... somehow are a "no" to me. I used to rationalize it thinking it was because those fics were almost always written by cis people who would only fetishize trans* bodies, but now it has gotten to a point in which actual trans* people on tumblr I follow post their headcanons and I get /so much second hand embarrassment/. I know the problem is mine but I still they're... well, really pushy. It's like every character under the sun is trans* for them, and I want to yell "NOT EVERYBODY IS GENDER-VARIANT, GODDAMMIT". It's worse when it's a character I love. What the fuck is wrong with me?
I fail at fandom and at queerness. And now I wonder if I'm mildly transphobic, and I hate the idea, and myself.
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(Anonymous) 2013-08-04 09:51 pm (UTC)(link)...I still don't want to read them though...
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i guess that can go for slash too but often m/m fics pairing ostensibly straight dudes focus more on their relationship dynamics than they do on homosexuality in general
also it is frustrating when people say that because x character exhibits x trait they are totally trans! especially when this comes from the same people who are otherwise against the idea of gender roles
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(Anonymous) 2013-08-04 10:33 pm (UTC)(link)Where do I start?
There are so many reasons why.
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(Anonymous) 2013-08-04 10:59 pm (UTC)(link)But that's probably because in one of my fandoms, people are acting as if the trans*headcanon is canon.
I don't blame them completely because the canon was ambiguous at first, but I keep seeing people who have read the source material up to date and they keep insisting that that character is *trans.
Despite, you know, the fact he already said he thinks of himself as guy and we have seen him several times pretty comfortable as a guy. There's no gender dyphoria, doubts or anything.
Some few people are saying the character could be *trans an being in denial, which is at least a plausible theory based on some few details (though I keep thinking him being genderfluid would make more sense...), but still... there are just too many people acting as if it was canon and the fandom is too small to avoid them completely.
I just hope they don't start attacking the people who don't agree with them and ranting about the right pronouns.
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The fact is, you don't like those headcanons. So if I were you, I'd avoid them, and read things I do like instead. You don't have to comment telling your trans friends they're doing it wrong, you just don't have to comment at all. If you feel like investigating why you have these feelings, that might be a journey worth taking, but I think it would be a lot easier if you don't put pressure on yourself to like trans headcanons at the end of it. Maybe you never will, and that's okay.
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(Anonymous) 2013-08-04 11:34 pm (UTC)(link)Personally there are VERY few fandom characters I could see as trans*, I've read only one trans-related fic that I've enjoyed. And that was a body horror fic in which a character who spent quite a bit of time bodiless (Alphonse Elric, a guy) was re-embodied into a female against his will. Not exactly a poster fic for trans acceptance, that one.
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(Anonymous) 2013-08-04 11:37 pm (UTC)(link)And I'm genderqueer myself and I feel the same way as you with regards to reading trans* characters. I don't mind playing with gender but like you full on trans* just annoys me.
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(Anonymous) 2013-08-05 01:37 am (UTC)(link)But obviously, she dresses like a boy so she must be trans*! As a cis female who has always presented in a more masculine fashion, I find that sort of assumption to be, quite frankly, disgusting and sexist. Girls can be masculine and still be female, just like boys can be feminine and still be male. Gender identity has nothing to do with presentation.
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(Anonymous) 2013-08-05 05:34 am (UTC)(link)But that's just it, I don't actually have to read these fics and posts, do I? Even if it's people you follow, you can ignore them. Back in the days two of my closest LJ friends started really getting into writing my favorite character in our mutual fandom as trans*, and they would talk about it all the time. Did I feel an imperative to participate? Of course not, and back on LJ, the absence of someone's opinion in a small group of friends was even more noticeable. Did anyone care? No.
So I guess while it's pretty normal for you to have these feelings, you could stand to... lighten up a bit? Secondhand embarrassment shouldn't make you want to yell at people in annoyance, that's kind of extreme. Fandom activities are supposed to make you happy; those folks are writing and talking about trans* characters because it makes them happy. You should avoid them for the same reason. Go look at what you like instead.
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