[ SECRET POST #1558 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1558 ⌋

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Comments

[fscom.livejournal.com]

03. http://i53.tinypic.com/5xn5h5.jpg

[(Anonymous)]

Oh, HOW I relate to you...

[(Anonymous)]

I was the same at 23, although I didn't think to create scrapbooks because it was pre-Internet times. Don't worry about it and don't rush into anything. You're young. 23 is young, and there is nothing wrong with childishness. I'm a married mother of five now, but I'll always be about a kid at heart!

[hellofacatluvr.livejournal.com]

Uh, OP, there is no shame in not having a kid or being/getting married at 23. IMHO that is too early for any of that, any way.

[hikari87.livejournal.com]

Marriage and having babies isn't the one and only standard of whether your life has worth. If you don't want them and would rather make your scrapbooks, then good for you for not giving in to pressure to do something you don't. Doing what YOU want to do is better than doing what someone else thinks you should do just because they are doing it. Also, f'n WHOA THAT MANY THAT YOUNG ARE MARRIED WITH BABIES? That's...kind of weird, actually.

[resounding-echo.livejournal.com]

I feel like there are conflicting things going on here: is it your not "having started a family" or your involvement in fandom that makes you feel a failure? Because neither of those things define adulthood.

Man successful adults do not pursue the marriage/kids route, and many adults retain their fannish interests.

[wldcatsprstr-14.livejournal.com]

It's different if you actually want marriage/partnership and kids. If you don't, then you shouldn't feel like a failure because that's not your dream. So chin up, anon.

[interrobangings.livejournal.com]

no wonder divorce rates are so high

[micromyni.livejournal.com]

Don't feel like a failure just because you haven't had children/gotten a husband by 23. Why not be perfectly happy with your college education, no kids, no significant other, and no one to spend your money on but yourself in this economy? I'd love to be in your situation.

[sairei.livejournal.com]

23 is too young for marriage and babies, honestly. Enjoy life as you'd like and don't feel pressured to conform to what everyone else is doing. This is your life, live it as you want.

[judo-creature.livejournal.com]

I want children so badly and yet the idea of having them at twenty-three makes my stomach want to physically turn inside out.

Fuck, the idea of being married at twenty-three horrifies me. I can only pray that at twenty-three I'm scrapbooking instead of waddling my youth away with a swollen gut and living in dubiously blissful heteronormality.

Don't feel like a failure, OP. You are absolutely not alone.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm 30, not married, don't have kids and I'm active in 5 different fandoms. I go to conventions to chat and squee with other like-minded people, many of whom are even older than I am, married with children and involved in fandom.

I don't think there's a time limit on fandom activity. Life also doesn't end if you're not married by age 25! Do you even want to get married and have kids? Because it's okay if you don't, and if anyone gives you crap about your life choices, then it's their problem and not yours. Keep on fangirling/fanboying and live your life the way you like it :)

♥

[crimsontriforce.livejournal.com]

What everybody else said. Wonderful answers, everyone.

[dramaturgy.livejournal.com]

I relate, anon, but please don't think that. I'm twenty-five, I am in the second year of a graduate degree that it's doubtful will even give me an edge in my field, and I pay way too much money for a crappy room in a crappy apartment in student housing. It's okay to not want marriage and kids -- in general, especially if there are other things you want. Do what makes you happy and it'll never be wrong.

[(Anonymous)]

Dear, I feel your pain. Heck, the epidemic is reaching even younger people where I am, I'm 18 and I know many people the same age who are engaged, pregnant, have kids or all of the above. Then there's me, who's never even been in a relationship.
All I can say is, don't feel pressured to rush into things, whatever you do. Chances are, you wouldn't be any happier than if you just let nature take it's course.

[(Anonymous)]

...Americans sure marry awfully young.

[(Anonymous)]

Really at 23? That is pretty young. I'm 21 and and majority of the people my age are unmarried and have no kids. Hearing 95% of 23 year olds settling down that young kinda surprises me...

I believe you should get married when your ready not just for the sake of being married. Rushing into that kind of thing usually does not end in happiness.

Just do what you want in your time and don't worry about what everyone else is doing. People move at different paces.

[cyren-2132.livejournal.com]

I'm going to my 10-year high-school reunion in a couple months. I usually feel fairly content with my life, but then I check out what some of my friends and other people from then are doing...they're all either paired up, with kids or in love with their jobs and all of a sudden I go from feeling content to feeling like a miserable lump who has no purpose and contributes nothing to society.

I don't even particularly want kids or a spouse, but they all just seem so...you know. I don't want to say "happy," but...with purpose.

[lashiec.livejournal.com]

23 is too young for such, imo. And being married and having kids is hardly what makes one an adult.

Married at 25, and I'm still fairly childish.
A mother down the road's kid damaged one of my windows, and she cries and lies up and down about it, so she's quite childish too.

Am I the only one who finds this weird?

[(Anonymous)]

HIGH SCHOOL?! FUCKING HIGH SCHOOL AND PEOPLE ARE MARRIED/ENGAGED/HAVE CHILDREN?! Excuse my asking OP, but where in the world are you from?? This is mind-boggling for me. I thought people in most Western countries people don't really marry early unless they got knocked up from teen sex. Are you from a place where early marriage is expected?

Regardless, I wouldn't worry about it. There are worse things you can do to feel like a failure at 23, such as dropping out of college, not having a job, etc. Scrapbooking for fandom is hardly anything horrific.

[allstarzs.livejournal.com]

I know exactly what you mean anon.

[ruriruri.livejournal.com]

Me too, man, only I'm not quite 22.

Also am I the only one bewildered by the people who are bewildered by the idea of being married/having kids "that early"? I mean, granted, I come from a small town, so that could be it, but... =/

[ell-de-gothia.livejournal.com]

Take a chill pill, anon. I don't think you should get married and have kids for at least another ten years. You've gotta live life until then, and if you wanna make scrapbooks, then do scrapbooks!

[msloserrific.livejournal.com]

I won't say "23 is too young!" because I know people who are married and have children who are that age (and younger!) and seem to be really happy and fulfilled. But regardless, I would say 23 is a bit early (IMO) to be worried about your biological clock. You aren't a failure, you're just taking a different path, one that isn't terribly uncommon, either.

[nomorenoodles.livejournal.com]

You're only 23, anon! You've still got pretty much your whole life for that stuff. Just enjoy your life in the meantime, and all of the other things will come of their own accord, providing you want them.