[ SECRET POST #3546 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3546 ⌋

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Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 41 secrets from Secret Submission Post #507.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Official advertise your fandom-related event thread.

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4. What is NOT allowed: anything for profit, any kind of fic/art commissions, seeking 1-on-1 RP, that kind of thing.

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Official clickables thread.

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3. If you're going to post, try to at least help the others.

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General comments:

(If the thread contains spoilery/triggery content please post as 2nd comment so it collapses!)

What's something people compliment you on...

[(Anonymous)]

that in reality you wish you could change about yourself?

Re: What's something people compliment you on...

[(Anonymous)]

I don't want to change things because I don't want to be less smart, but I really wish people would stop calling me smart all the time. I feel like the expectations are higher for me than people around me who don't get called smart all the time, and I'm not allowed to fail. If I do fail, I feel I have to feel bad about it and work harder to fix it. Also, I was never the top of my class or prone to amazing bursts of genius or creativity, so I don't understand where everyone is getting their basis for comparison from.

Re: What's something people compliment you on...

[(Anonymous)]

"You look so young!"

in b4 "you'll appreciate it when you're older" from people who think they're older than me, but not

Re: What's something people compliment you on...

[kallanda_lee]

I guess carrying my weight well/dressing well for a fat girl. Like, I know I present well, but I still wish I was average-sized.

Inspired by #9

[(Anonymous)]

Assuming you were in the main cast of a horror or sci fi disaster movie- meaning being an extra or NPC is not an option- what tropey role would you play?

What's your damage FS

[(Anonymous)]

?

Raise your hand...

[(Anonymous)]

...if you have to work tomorrow and you've put off doing your laundry until the last minute.

Drugs

[(Anonymous)]

What non medical drugs have you tried? How did you enjoy them?

Rec Thread!

[(Anonymous)]

Ask for recs for whatever you want. Fics, TV, games, food, whatever.

What are you reading, FS?

[(Anonymous)]

I'm reading The Last Unicorn at the moment and it's awesome. What about you?

Saddest Thing You've Watched or Read Recently?

[(Anonymous)]

Funniest Thing You've Watched or Read Recently?

[(Anonymous)]

What's the most offensive joke you've seen in real life

[(Anonymous)]

and did it make you laugh?

Decision Making

[(Anonymous)]

For those decisions that need making

Shipping related stuff that made you facepalm

[(Anonymous)]

Inspired vaguely by #7. Specific examples of shipper behavior that just kind of made you sigh and shake your head, not the outrageous stuff.

Emmys

[(Anonymous)]

Who's watching them? I know people bag on awards shows, but I love how they are simultaneously dumb but also important in the short-term (in terms of helping establish trends and what gets greenlit).

Also, the kids from Stranger Things are on the red carpet and they look SO CUTE.

Question Bout Privilege

[(Anonymous)]

How do we deal with the fact that privilege, in addition to its other effects, actively makes it more difficult to try to work out equitable ways of doing things?

That probably doesn't make any sense. Let me give you an example to get at what I want to talk about. One possible example of male privilege: laundry. Say (as seems likely) that men are less likely to be required to do laundry, less likely to have been taught to do laundry, and less likely. That seems like a clear example of privilege as it's discussed: society has distorted itself into a shape where men are much less likely to be required to do a specific domestic chore, and has twisted around to impose that labor on women instead. And this operates less on the level of conscious decision-making, and more on the level of invisible assumptions and people drifting into societally ordained roles.

The question is, where do you go from there? How do you eliminate that kind of privilege? Because even if you get a man to realize that it's unfair that the burden of laundry falls largely on female shoulders, that still doesn't mean that he knows how to actually do the laundry, or that we know what an attitude towards laundry-doing that leads to an equitable distribution of labor looks like. And the most obvious solution here - for the women who know how to do laundry to help teach the men - is palpably flawed, in that it puts the burden of ameliorating the situation on the shoulders of the people who are already disadvantaged. But at the same time, the laundry still actually does need to be done, or else it's unhygienic and disease will spread everywhere and it'll be awful.

Okay, yes. Obviously, that's a limited and flawed metaphor - laundry isn't that important, and it's quite easy to learn - but I think it's a pattern that pops up pretty frequently around privilege. It's one thing to identify privilege. But privilege often goes along with ignorance - one of the effects of privilege is to shield some people from certain kinds of necessity and certain kind of knowledge, which means that there are often a lack of basic skills.

And so I think you run into this problem where you have one group of privileged people who really aren't any good at doing a certain thing. And it's important to do it, but it's also intensely hard to figure out how to actually do it for people who haven't before. For instance, I think this is a pattern that shows up with emotional labor, and a lot of things in that realm. And on the one hand, it's a result of privilege for someone not to know how to do it; on the other hand, whatever the source of their ignorance, learning how to do it is still really fucking hard.

So, any thoughts? How can people figure out how to start doing things they've never done before? How do you balance the need for people to understand and learn these things, and the growing pains that come with understanding and learning them, with the needs of people who are underprivileged in these regards?

I hope that makes sense...

"My generation..."

[(Anonymous)]

The Nirvana secret reminded me that apparently unlike the rest of my generation, I don't like Nirvana and don't view Kurt Cobain's death as some sort of cultural touchstone.

What don't you match with your generation?

I can't use my phone

[(Anonymous)]

My ex has posted my phone number online. I'm getting sexual calls at all hours from all over. What's something petty I can do to get back at them? I'm not taking this to the cops nor am I changing the number I had for years. I want to make their phone as bad as mine if possible.

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Games thread!

Flight Rising

[(Anonymous)]

How do you feel about runes?

Have you been keeping up with the Baldwin weirdness? I'm hoping we get a new breed tonight!

[(Anonymous)]

Don't really have anything deep to say. Just thought I'd say I don't think I've never scene a Fandom Secrets post that had so many secrets I agreed with. :) I'm something of a collector, saving the secrets that I like. I saved a lot from this post. Now that I've said my thing, I'll bow and leave.