[ SECRET POST #2021 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2021 ⌋

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 05 pages, 110 secrets from Secret Submission Post #289.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[fscom]

General comments:

Dealing WIth Someone Mentally Unhealthy

[(Anonymous)]

I need serious and quick advice here:

A childhood friend of mine (who was really more my older sister’s friend) is bipolar and going through a manic phase. I haven’t spoken to her in years and even set my features on facebook so that I wouldn’t see her updates, because they were coming every second and getting basically nonsensical.

Yesterday completely out of the blue she called me telling me she was going to design a dollhouse for me (collecting dolls is a hobby I’ve mentioned on facebook) because she was studying architecture. I told her I didn’t need one and basically tried to find any reason to get off the phone. Now today she’s called three times already (twice collect, trying to put her message in the space where you say who’s calling) trying to get me to talk to her about the dollhouse she’s supposedly making. Jut now my dad answered the phone and told her I was out, but I don’t think that will deter her for long. She just told my dad that she’s in a mental hospital for a day (she’s spent the last ten years in and out of rehab and mental hospitals; and the problem is she always leaves before she can get any real help).

She’s not usually violent, though she has been once or twice when her she was doing hard drugs on top of her mental illness. She’s incredibly hard to deal with while manic because she does not listen to anything you say. I can keep dodging her calls but I really really don’t want her coming to my house. My whole family is sick right now and this is not something I can handle on top of it. I know I’m supposed to react with compassion, but I barely know this girl anymore and this is the worst possible time for her to start up with this. Can you think of anything I can do to keep her from bothering me and my family?

Re: Dealing WIth Someone Mentally Unhealthy

[(Anonymous)]

Try to explain to her that this isn't a good time and that you don't want/need a dollhouse like you would with a person who doesn't have a mental illness. If she actually does start harassing you more, get help from someone who *can* stop her. It is not your job to protect her, sort out her problems or make her problems yours. Your responsibility lies with your family.

Re: Dealing WIth Someone Mentally Unhealthy

[(Anonymous)]

This may not be any help, but if she has bipolar disorder she shouldn't be in a mental hospital. The most effective treatment for bipolar disorder is taking the proper medication.

She doesn't have anyone else that can look after her?

Re: Dealing WIth Someone Mentally Unhealthy

[(Anonymous)]

Does your friend have family she lives with? If so, you might want to contact them and tell them that you're being harassed and that your friend needs to be supervised. If she's living by herself or with friends, there's nothing you can do to physically stop her from coming to your house, but you should keep ignoring the calls. If you're forced to talk to her, be incredibly blunt and say something like, "I really will not talk about this. Please let me rest. Stop calling me." If she shows up at your house, be ready to call the cops.

When someone is really ill, there is not a whole lot you can do to help them. Just put your own safety and well-being first.

Re: Dealing WIth Someone Mentally Unhealthy

[(Anonymous)]

Stop taking her calls at all, and don't feel guilty for it. You have your own family to look after, and she needs specialist help to sort out her own problems. I would take her off your Facebook too, probably block her. If you let her get a foot in the door chances are she'll never leave you alone. Even if she gets better, expect her to turn up again when she has another manic phase.

If she turns up at your house then you may well have to call the cops if she won't leave. I'm sorry this is happening to you, best of luck dealing, and hope your family recovers soon.

Re: Dealing WIth Someone Mentally Unhealthy

[(Anonymous)]

Block her on Facebook and stop answering her calls. Block her number if you can. If she asks why, tell her you don't want to be friends with her while she's off her medication because you don't like the person she is without them. If it gets any worse, call the police.

She can't control being bipolar, but she can control whether she takes her medication and gets genuine help. She's not doing either and that's enough reason to keep her out of your life.

Re: Dealing WIth Someone Mentally Unhealthy

[biohazardgirl]

Hello OP!

Yikes, this is a rough situation. As a bipolar person myself I would like to say of the posters below who say 'try to reason with her' is that that's bad advice. If you've told her that you don't want the dollhouse and she keeps calling you anyway and her facebook statuses make no sense and she's in a mental hospital than this is a person who might not have the capacity to be reasoned with anymore. If you don't want her coming over, answer her next call and say you don't want her there, but I wouldn't expect it of her to listen to you at all. If she shows up and she doesn't seem lucid or she can't be reasoned with, call an ambulance, if she gets violent, don't hesitate to call the police. Take care of yourself first. When she comes down (if she is a decent person) she will be grateful that you took care of her and got her help and (if she was getting violent) she will be grateful that you didn't allow her to hurt anyone. She needs to be on medication, and you need to take care of your family first.

I sound very harsh, but really, reasoning with mania is the absolute worst idea in the world, and mania can really be very dangerous and destructive to the sufferer and to the people surrounding the bipolar person. Good luck, OP.

Sea Angels, Nudibranchs, and the obligatory spider.

[joltymcjolterson]

Good day! A request came in, and as it so happens I was planning on featuring the animals that were called for (because it's been a while, and I do like them), so that actually was a wonderful coincidence. We're going a bit more into the sea today, and while I'm not sure how cute these creatures might be, they're definitely colourful and pretty! This once, I'm not giving too much information, just what they're both called and the links to the main wikipedia pages where you can read up a bit more if you're interested. The focus for today is just what they look like. (:

Re: Sea Angels, Nudibranchs, and the obligatory spider.

[joltymcjolterson]

NUNDIBRANCHS


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SEA ANGELS


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And, as I'm sure you're expecting...

















...a (sort of) colourful spider!


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This little lady is Tutelina Elegans, a small iridiscent spider. We can tell she's a girl because they're sexually dimorphic, and the males are more golden rather than green and also have a funny hairdo, like so:


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They're pretty spiders- though really, if you see them in real life, they're probably not going to look that impressive.


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Here's one on a leaf next to a thumbnail. Though there are bigger species of jumping spiders out there, most of the ones you might encounter aren't going to be much larger than this.

sherlock fanfic

[(Anonymous)]

I worked out why Sherlock fanfic creeps me out. It was all very incidental and my BFF realised at the same time and we kind of shared a look of horror. Now we both know why we won't watch the modern day version either.

It's because my best friend and I share a very similar dynamic and living situation. The 2 of us live together, we've been best friends for years, the friendship could almost be called romantic (subtext if it was a story I guess), not wanting to get into details but she's a dr and I'm on my way to an equivalent profession.
Thank god neither of us is solving murders while living together.

and we read a fic about unrequited love or lust or whatever and we both really frowny faced at that because we had that happen (and moved on) - but damn if people don't side eye us and think we're in a relationship and it was eerily similar to our lives

and then we both got creeped out and agreed not to talk about sherlock anymore

[morieris]

Should I bother watching Thor and Captain America? Just wondering.

What's your job

[(Anonymous)]

That thread for customer service bitching yesterday has gotten me curious.

I'm guessing it's going to be like 95% College/education, retail, and IT, but still.

Awesome cracky fan-made videos

[cuddlebug]

Guys and girls, this is what I watch when I'm having a really bad day and need a quick fix:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M66m4bsIss8

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BNOPUDJOtl4

Anything you'd like to share? :D

Talking about characters you irrationally hate

[intrigueing]

How do you deal with discussing characters you really hate for no good reason with your fandom friends? I don't have a good reason for hating this character in question, and I really really really hate it when people say "idk s/he just bugs me" about characters I like so I don't want to say that. Should I try and find reasons to praise the character or should I just avoid the subject if they ask?

(I don't have irrational hatred for a lot of characters, in fact I usually don't hate characters who are meant to be liked, so I have no clue what people usually do).

/lolz my problems are so important guise! XD

Misheard Lyrics?

[got_swagger]

What's a song where you misheard the lyrics and then later went "OH!"

OMG what is that noise?

[(Anonymous)]

Are there car alarms that keep beeping at regular intervals - not the constant obvious alarms but a beep/chirp sound every few minutes? SOMETHING is going off outside (at least I'm pretty sure it's outside because I don't think I have anything in the apartment that could be making that sound) and it's annoying... *sigh* even without my hearing aid on it's loud enough to be heard...

Can someone explain this omegaverse stuff to me?

[(Anonymous)]

When I first heard of it I assumed it was related to the concept of alpha and beta social heirarchy stuff but what I've been able to gather from F!S over the past couple of weeks is that it's to do with Sherlock and mpreg?

Canon Loves Mako

[(Anonymous)]

And won't ever stop 8D

Survey: Game Shows and Video Games

[feathercircle]

Informal survey, prompted by a comment on Secret 20:

1. Do you enjoy watching game shows/do you have any game shows you enjoy?

2. Do you enjoy watching other people (friends, family, Youtubers, etc) play video games?

What's your job Pt 2

[(Anonymous)]

OP wrote: "I'm guessing it's going to be like 95% College/education, retail, and IT, but still."

I find it interesting that they were wrong by a lot

[majorshipper]

I feel like I missed a lot of cool discussions and talk yesterday. FFS, why is my RL so...real?

*sigh*

[majorshipper]

Less whiny more srs question; I started watching Game Of Thrones, and while it was okay, I really didn't see the infatuation fandom seems to have. I don't want to read the books right now(I don't have a lot of free time), and really, a big part of what turned me off the TV show was the fact that people die. A lot. Main characters and secondary characters an background characters and everyone in between. As soon as I learned someone's name(wasn't there a secret a while back about how Robb Stark and Jon Snow looked a lot alike? BECAUSE THEY DO AND IT WAS VERY CONFUSING FOR A FEW EPISODES) they tended to die. I've been spoiled a bit, so I'm aware of the bodies that just keep piling up in the books and presumably will also do so in the show(more than they already have).
Basically, is it worth it to watch the entire thing? Is there some epic redeeming factor? I've watched half of S1, and it still hasn't hit any of my interest buttons, except that Daenerys(or does everyone call her Khalessi?) is my favorite and I'm kinda rooting for her and Jon Snow to survive it all. I don't like to get invested in characters only to watch them die terrible deaths, which is, like, a motif with this show. So, tl;dr is it worth it?

Not mine, I wish...

[kallanda_lee]

But I found this pic made of awesome on Reddit - and thought the Doctor Who/Mass Effect fans here would appreciate it...

TW:Mild Self Harm

[(Anonymous)]

So my problem is I'm not sure I have a problem. A year and a half ago I basically had fairly severe bipolar mental breakdown (that I'm medicated for now) , and I began mildly self harming very frequently. I bit my hands, I dug at my skin with nail scissors & plastic, I dug into my skin with my hails, & I picked at existing accidental injuries. I almost never left marks because I didn't want to be caught (I was in a swimming class at the time), and if I did leave marks they were very small. When my medication kicked in, the behavior became a lot less frequent, and for a while it stopped completely.

However, it didn't really ever die. When I have brief relapses of anxiety or bipolar or even if I'm just angry or sad sometimes I still do it, especially the hand-biting. It's the most effective way to clear my head and focus me and make me not feel like shit.

My question is this: it still makes me feel guilty for doing it, and I'm not really sure whether or not I should give it up. Is it worth it to make an effort to not do it if I'm not really hurting myself all that badly?