[ SECRET POST #2079 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2079 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 057 secrets from Secret Submission Post #297.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ], [ 1 - posted twice ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

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[fscom]

Official advertise your fandom-related comms/events thread.

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5. What IS allowed: roleplay advertisements, fandom comms, fandom events, things like that.
6. What is NOT allowed: anything for profit, any kind of fic/art commissions, seeking 1-on-1 RP, that kind of thing.

[fscom]

Official clickables thread.

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General comments:

Poly recs?

[vethica]

Can anyone rec me canons with poly relationships in them? Any genders, I'm not picky. Any medium also, but manga would be especially loved! :B

What are you doing right now?

[(Anonymous)]

Silly thread, but I'm here studying bored as fuck and well... xD

Moffat off Twitter

[veronica_rich]

So what happened with Moffat leaving Twitter? Was he just harassed after the season opener too much, or what? I guess that'd be hard to take in such volume ...

Question about Korean convenience/grocery stores

[galerian-ash.livejournal.com]

People who live -- or has lived -- in Korea, I have a question:

Are there grocery/convenience stores that are open during the night? If there are, would they be selling cakes or muffins?

I know this is an odd and very specific question, but I need to know for ficcing reasons! Thanks in advance :)

Question about relationships and the bathroom

[(Anonymous)]

If you are in a relationship and live with the person, are you okay with using the bathroom in their presence? And would it bother you if someone just opened the door and walked in while you were in there?

I was always taught that you should knock if a bathroom door is shut. But some people I know seem to think it's normal for married people to just walk in on their spouse, even though their spouse might be using the toilet. I would not tolerate that myself, but I'm wondering if I'm weird.

Asian animals, last of the continents!

[joltymcjolterson]

Bit late with getting this up today, so just on with the pictures! Asian animals, let's go!

Sharing something good this time

[enigmasphinx]

Today I finally got in touch with the one person I was missing from my old high school posse. There were four of us who hung around all the time, a knot of friends in a very small private school where we sooo didn't fit in. We lost track of one another in 1982-83, moved on, married, had lives...

For most of the intervening years, I had an on again/off again friend who would stick to me like glue then dump me wicked hard and painfully. I got the impression over time that I was a horrible person, a bad friend, worthless and lucky if people wanted to hang out with me at all. She bailed again a few years ago and I didn't go after her. I didn't let her back into my life this time.

I would rather have no friends at all than the kind she was to me.

Somehow I found my old friends from high school. Through FB and Classmates dot com, I located the people who were my best friends ever. It has warmed my heart that each one has said they been looking for me. They remembered me. They were excited to hear from me.

How could I be as bad a person as my "old friend" told me I was if these people remember me with such joy and fondness? How can I be the shitty one if there are people who have been trying to find me for such a long time?

I can't be all bad if people I thought the world of also think the world of me, can I? So.... I'm happy to have found them, I'm re-evaluating my self-image, and I just wanted to share that with y'all.

Tl;DR--- Got a self-esteem boost, life improved!! :)

Depressed myself

[(Anonymous)]

I spent a good part of the day watching 9/11 specials/Old news footage from that day. I learned so much more terrible things than I had known before. It still hits me so hard after all this time.

Rest in peace all the victims of that horrible day.

Fiancee with the 40k debt anon

[(Anonymous)]

She hasn't shown up for work in a while. Management was confused and they think she's left the country. All I could think was

http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ma6qeqO5P91r3c0rao2_1280.jpg

Now I wonder what that 40k debt was for.

TW mentions of abuse; guy who blabbed about girlfriend's abuse update

[anonymouslyyours]

I asked for advice here
http://fandomsecrets.dreamwidth.org/668559.html?thread=580301455#cmt580301455

I'm sorry I didn't reply to all the comments but I did read and consider everything, thank you for your help.

I really thought she should know because some of the things he said made me feel like she had other issues she might open up about in the future that he might feel entitled to share with other people. I also considered the fact that the only reason I hadn't met her yet was because of a scheduling conflict and that there were already plans in place where I would meet her which he knew before discussing this with me. He had specifically said that she had begged him not to say anything to anyone and didn't want anyone else to know.

It's not that I feel that he didn't have the right to seek advice. But not from someone he has such a casual relationship with, not behind her back, not before he'd even discussed his feelings with her, and certainly not the self-pitying bullshit he was spinning at me.

I asked him to talk to her again since and I asked how he would feel if I told people some of the stuff he had confided in me and he said it was different because I wasn't asking for advice and that he hadn't done anything wrong. I said if he didn't do anything wrong he should be fine telling her. It degraded from there and I realized he really wasn't going to tell her and I would have to tell her myself.

I really waffled back and forth between e-mailing her and telling her in person. I sent her an e-mail telling her I was in a bit of an awkward bind concerning a conversation I had with her boyfriend recently and that I felt she should know about but he disagreed and I asked if she wanted to maybe ask him what I was talking about. She wanted to hear it from me so I asked whether she wanted an e-mail or if she wanted to meet me. She chose to meet me but wanted to do it at their apartment, not at a public place. I sort of chickened out and started crying like an idiot so I gave her what I wrote at her apartment and said if she wanted to talk or had questions I would wait down at the park for a couple hours.

She came down about an hour later.

There was no physical fight but it was pretty intense emotionally. She'd called him about it before coming down and he had told her I was obsessed with him so at first she didn't believe me and I didn't want to start dragging out all the details he told me so I showed her some texts he had sent after the event trying to convince me I was overreacting. Then she accused me of manipulating the information out of him.

It was pretty bad but ultimately she just cried for a while. I managed to convince her into going to at least one abuse support group meeting by promising to go with her. I don't have high hopes that she'll leave him so I'm pretty much just trying to focus my efforts on getting her to a counselor who will be able to handle what she's going through a lot better.

Crossover BFFs?

[tasogare_n_hime]

So out of boredom I've been re-watching the Harry Potter films/re-reading the books. While watching, I thought of Last Exile the fandom I'm pretty much obsessed with now. I came to the conclusion that if Luna Lovegood somehow met Dio Eraclea they would be BFFs. Nothing romantic at all, but I think they would get along really well.

So FS, do have any crossover BFFs?

I think my landlord is legitimately a headcase

[ill_omened]

She just spent like five minutes screaming at me - literally screaming mind you, about lights being left on.

This is a couple weeks after I gave her a moderately indepth explanation on exactly why this didn't matter.

I told her to jog on and she was so furious I was pretty sure she was going to hit me.

Currently she's shouting about something or other at someone in the flat downstairs (her daughter?) who's trying to calm her down.

Kinda want her to come back up again and start something so I can finish it.

Characters you liked at first but then fell out of love with?

[intrigueing]

In reaction to that thread about characters you never expected to fall in love with....what are some characters who made a really good first impression on you, but as time went on you started disliking them?

A few examples for me: Gregory House from House, the Nolanverse version of Bruce Wayne, basically every character from Six Feet Under.

(Actually, I have pretty much a built-in resentment of highly flawed characters who remain static and don't get character development, or who become even douchier over time. I love heavily flawed characters that DO get better, but I can't care about someone who refuses to even try.)

F/F book recs

[(Anonymous)]

Yesterday, in response to a secret, we had some interesting M/M book recs. So, as the title says, can someone rec some good F/F books? The only ones I've ever read are Tipping the Velvet and the Honor Series by Radclyffe. I seriously need some new lesbian romance reading material!

Healing a broken heart

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not sure whether I should post it - after a whole year there's obviously nothing I can add to what I already know about getting over. I guess I just need some venting...

One year ago I fell in love for the first time. The guy returned my feelings. We have dated for a few weeks and then he dumped me. We somehow managed to become good friends now, if it matters - so there's no grudge on either side, all is fine and dandy.

BUT. I can't get over. I simply can't. I have tried to, but stopped seeing any sense in it pretty early on. I've never loved before, I didn't think I even could - and this feeling virtually turned my very essence upside down, made me an entirely different person, wiser (as I hope) and more free. I used to imagine I have qualities, principles and certain basic, undoubtable views to stick to, but after this story which I'm not going to relate in details (it'd take the whole night) I realized this love is the strongest... thing I have ever had in me. My faith, writing, studying - everything I cherish fails to console me, although the new me draws much more pleasure from all this than I did before; the problem is they are suddenly not so reliable anymore, now that I have experienced something much more extraordinary, which I don't want to let go. On the one hand, I seem to have finally found myself and my place in life (for the first time giving up is not even an option, I legitimately want to live and succeed in life), so it's not like I can't live without the guy... right? On the other hand, I can't forget how beautiful this connection was, and, well, how much I love him.

I refused to choke my romantic sentiments from the start and invested all my effort into fighting the anger, despair and jealosy instead. So now, one year after the break-up I find myself more overwhelmed by painful tenderness than on that first day a year ago. I love my new life but I can't deny I love the guy who 'gave' it to me equally or even more. I feel that at this point there's no getting over, I managed to look into his soul way too well, to get accustomed to him and admire and care for him as a human being so deeply that I practically love him 'like myself'.

And it's a miracolous feeling indeed, but... it still hurts. Most of the time it's nothing but warm and fuzzy but sometimes it suffocates me. And I can't get rid of it, it won't go off my soul, it appears to BE my soul (or its crucial part). I really don't want to throw it away but I'd also like to preserve my sanity going through this.

Oh, and the mere idea of seeing someone else appalles me. Sad, but it's a fact: I wouldn't go out with other people if I was ordered to, it just feels wrong at this moment. The more I think about this, the more I get convinced he was the one (and by now I have learnt about a great deal of his flaws, so I'm hardly idealizing).

I tried so hard, I was almost convinced the ultimate solace was waiting for me right around the corner, and now it looks like I've driven myself into a dead-end. I don't know what to do.

TL;DR: Anon cannot get over her (presumably) long-lasting first love.

Classical music

[(Anonymous)]

Okay this will sound strange, but who's the most liked or known composer where you come from?